There comes a time in the life of Christians in which we ask “Who am I called to be?”.
I can’t claim to have the answers, because I don’t think I do. However, there are certain things that can help us discern who we are called to be.
Firstly, God created us in a very unique way. No other human is exactly like us, and God had us in His mind, from the beginning of times, and placed us where and when we are. When you think about this, I think that there must be a reason that God decided to put me in this world, in this day and age, and that I must figure out what He wants of me.
However, how am I supposed to know what He wants from me?
Prayer is a relationship, a conversation with God. How do we find out what others want from us? We ask them in conversation. So why not have the same approach with God? You can approach prayer in any which way you want. That is, with prayers that come from the heart, or from a book. The basic idea here is to get talking to God. It may take some time, but a prayerful life will bear fruit.
I know from my personal experience that prayer can seem very one-sided, especially at the beginning. However, when we keep at it, we find out that God has ways of talking to us.
Listening is very difficult, but as your prayer life increases, listening becomes easier. God has many ways of talking to us. In the homilies at Mass, in reading the Bible or the lives of the saints, in what other people may say about your problem without asking them, in dreams, etc. However, one must be careful with listening. Listening should be guided by the Church teachings. God is not going to tell you, for example, to stop going to confession, because that is against Church teaching. For help in discerning the listening, go to your nearest priest.
We don’t know the answers to everything. We can’t do everything. We can’t make everything happen. We can’t control everything that is going on. Not everything is going to go our way. We must accept life’s shortcomings with humility. We are a community of Christians. We don’t need to do everything by ourselves. With a humble mentality, we can begin to figure out how we can be of service to others. It is often in service to others that we can begin to see what God wants of us.
4. STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE
This is perhaps the most straightforward (as in DUH!) and deep (as in I hadn’t thought of it before). It is very easy to read about a person that plants a garden and tends to it, and think that is something we can do (yet we hate to dig our hands in dirt). Or about people that do something that sounds oh-so-wonderful, but we can’t do certain things about this oh-so-wonderful enterprise. (For example, climbing Mt Everest… not everyone has the stamina to do so!)
To paraphrase Pope Francis, the Church is like an orchestra. We are all different instruments. Together we make beautiful music together, but we are not all the same. It’s okay to be different!
The key here is personal development. When you concentrate on what you like, the gifts that the Lord has given you (that is, that isn’t sinful!) and learn more about it, eventually, who you’re called to be will be revealed. Just remember to deepen your prayer life, prepare to listen carefully and with humility, be humble, and find yourself.
To paraphrase what St. Catherine of Siena once said, “If you are what you should be, you’ll set the whole world ablaze.”